Erotic Terms - What's This Mean?

If you have ever wondered what an erotic term or abbreviation meant, then search no further :-)  Ok, well, it's not a totally comprehensive list, but there's a lot we have covered off on! Please post if there is something you would like to see or think should be added to the list and we will do our best to accommodate!

Who is sleeping with whom? 

M/F - male and female couple

M/M - male and male couple

F/F - female and female couple

M/F/M - menage where both men have sex with the female but not each other, placing the female at the center of attention

F/M/F - menage where both women have sex with the male but not each other , placing the male at the center of attention

M/M/F - menage where everyone has sex or multi-directional play including M/M play

F/F/M - menage where everyone has sex or multi-directional play including F/F play

F/M/M - menage where everyone has sex

M/F/F - menage where everyone has sex

F/M/M/M - men have sex w/ female-she probably doesn't end up w/ one of them

M/F/M/M - men have sex w/ female-she DOES end up w/ one or more of them

M/M/F/M - men to the left of the (f) have sex w/ each other and the female. man to the right only has sex w/ the female. she probably ends up w/ 1 or 2 of the men

M/M/M/F - the three men have sex w/ each other and the female.

BDSM - What goes on in the dungeon? 

BDSM - This can be deciphered a few different ways:

B/D = Bondage & Discipline

S/M = Sadism & Masochism

D/s = Dominance & Submission

S/M = Slave & Master 

The term "BDSM" is used in a general sense to describe any situation or practice which includes erotic power exchange, dominance and submission, pain play, bondage, sensation play, or anything related to these.

Roles in BDSM: Who does what? 

Top/Dominant - is partner who is given control
Bottom/Submissive - partner who gives up control
Switch - switches between roles of the dominant and submissive

More information about the BDSM culture: 

Abbreviations and Words Commonly Featured in Erotica 

ABF - Adult Breastfeeding

Age-Play - A form of role play in which a participant assumes the role of someone of a different age. Typically, the submissive partner will assume the role of a very young (and hence powerless) child.

Animal-Play - The sub acts or dresses like an animal (puppy, pony, cow, etc.)

ANR - Adult Nursing Relationship (also adult breastfeeding)

Apadravya - This male piercing is typically placed running vertically from the top of the Glans Penis and exiting at the bottom just behind it. This piercing is used to increase sexual pleasure for both the wearer and his partner. **NSFW** Apadravya Photo

Anilingus - Any sexual activity involving licking, kissing, or tonguing another person's anus.

Bareback - Without a condom

Brothercest - Menage where brothers have sex with each other as well as the third party

Bukake - when several men ejaculate on a woman's face (mentioned in the description of Vow of Silence )

CD - Cross dressing - The act of one dressing up as the gender that they do not normally find themselves living as. This is done usually as a hobby, in order to live out fantasies, for drag shows/parties, or for sexual excitement. Not necessarily gay.

CFNM - Clothed Female Nude Male - this is exactly what it sounds like.

CBT - Cock and Ball Torture - torturing the male genitals.  Here are just a few examples of MANY. **THE FOLLOWING IMAGES MAY BE DISTURBING TO SOME VIEWERS**
**NSFW** CBT with insects

Cock Docking - When one man inserts his penis into another man's foreskin and rubs it off until he cums. **NSFW** Cock Docking

Cock Stuffing - involves using thin, cylindrical items (for example, a thermometer or wire), & inserting them into the urethra.  Over many months, the cylindrical item will stretch the hole-at-the-head of the penis by gradually inserting larger items, thus ultimately allowing your "buddy" to obtain the goal of fucking your urethra. 
**NSFW** Cock Stuffing (1)
**NSFW** Cock Stuffing (2)

DATO - Dining at the O - rim job

DATY - Dining at the Y - Cunnilingus

Dubious Consent or dub con - Similar to non-con, but where the "victim" is given an ultimatum: Have sex with me or Die. So victim must consent to sex to stay alive. 

DP - Double Penetration - penis or phallus in both vagina & anus

Facial - male ejaculation on a man or woman's face

Felching - the act of sucking semen from any human orifice, eg. anus, vagina, it can be done with a drinking straw when semen is deep inside the rectum.

Forced seduction - when a heroine who loses virginity by force, a heroine who initially dislikes and actively resists the hero's seduction, only ultimately to be overcome by desire.

Gay For Pay - male or female actors, porno stars, or sex workers who self-identify as heterosexual but are paid to act or perform as homosexual professionally.

Golden Shower - urination on your partner for sexual gratification

LGBTQ - refers to "lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender" people. the "Q" was later added for those who identify as queer and are questioning their sexual identity.

Manther - The male version of a cougar; an older man who dates younger women - man + panther

Mpreg - Male Pregnancy

Non-con - non consensual sex 

Pearl Necklace - Male ejaculates around their partner's neck and it looks like a necklace

Pegging is when a woman penetrates a man with a strap-on dildo.

Prince Albert - Male piercing done through the urethra & exiting slightly behind the glans penis on the underside of the penis. Special 'PA' jewelry or a Curved Barbell can also be used. This piercing is used to increase sexual pleasure for both the wearer & his partner. **NSFW** Prince Albert Photo

Rimming - Licking the anus

Russian - Cock fucking tits

St. Andrews Cross - Bondage achieved by spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains

Scat - Poop - pooping on your partner

Smegma - a cheesy substance beneath the foreskin of an uncircumcised penis

Smexy is a combination of smart and sexy. It's usually used to describe a hero or heroine who oozes sex appeal AND they are intelligent!

Sybian - a sex machine you sit on with a dildo attached to the middle - like riding a horse

Taint - On a man - area between sack & crack AND On a woman - area between giney & heinie

Teabagging - Male dips his balls in his partner's mouth

Toss Salad - tonguing another person's anus 

TPE - Total Power Exchange relationship where the dominant or owner has complete authority and influence over the submissive's life, making the majority of decisions...the dominant partner gets complete power at all times.

TS - Transgender - This is a broad term that includes transexual (pre/non or post-op), non-gender, bi (tri & multi) gender, androgynes, etc. 

TSTL - Too Stupid To Live - refers to heros or heroines who just can't seem to make any smart decisions to the point of being annoying - so obviously, they do not deserve to living.

Twincest - Menage where twins have sex with each other as well as the third party.

Twink is a gay slang term describing a young or young-looking gay man (ages 18–23 ) with a slender build, little or no body hair, and no facial hair - generally used to describe an effeminate male.

W/S - Water Sports aka golden showers or being urinated on More on W/S or Watersports


AFAIK - As Far As I Know
ATM - Ass to Mouth
ATM - At The Moment
BBW - Big Beautiful Women
BOB - Battery Operated Boyfriend
BTW - By The Way
DD - Dear Daughter
DH - Dear Husband 
DILF - Dad I'd Like to Fuck
DNF – Did Not Finish
DS = Dear Son
FIL = Father in Law 
FOTC - Fuck Of The Century
FWIW - For What It's Worth
GFY - Gay For You
GLBT - Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transexual
FWIW - For What It's Worth
HEA - Happily Ever After
HFN - Happy For Now
H/h - Hero / Heroine
IMO - In My Opinion 
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion or In My Honest Opinion
IRL - In Real Life
LGBTQ - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender/sexual, Queer/Questioning their sexual identity
LMAO - Laughing My Ass Off
LMFAO - Laughing My Fucking Ass Off
MIL - Mother in Law
MILF - Mother I'd Like to Fuck
MMV - Milage May Vary
NSFW - Not Safe For Work
NWS - Not Work Safe
OH - Other Half
OFY - Out For You
PM - Personal or Private Message sent to person's inbox
PNR - Paranormal Romance
PWP - Porn Without Plot (and no that is not a is PWP)
ROFLMAO - Rolling on the Floor Laughing My Ass Off
SMH - Shakes My Head
SO - Significant Other
TSTL - Too Stupid To Live - defined above
TTYL - Talk To You Later
UF - Urban Fantasy
UFR - Urban Fantasy Romance
UST - Unresolved Sexual Tension
YMMV - Your Mileage May Vary - meaning to each their own

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